That 8th....( feeling like you have ‘no right’ to be upset because of an unlabelled agreement, even though your heart didn't get the memo)
And the 9th (Changing your entire natural behavior and breaking your own peace for someone who is content keeping you at arm's length is exhausting)
i think the hardest truth is that the silence is usually the answer we're terrified of hearing. If someone wants to match your energy, you won't have to break your own peace to force it.
It resonates with me so much 😩💔😂💀, and that’s the sad part,really, really sad.
I actually just restricted him on Instagram because I’m trying to detach completely. I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore.
The funny thing is that he tries too, in his own way. But he’s either confused, or I keep convincing myself that he is, and that uncertainty is exhausting.
What hurts the most is that he doesn’t seem to know how to love in a way that doesn’t cause pain. Emotional pain is real, and honestly, it’s one of the hardest things to go through because the people hurting you often don’t even realize they’re doing it.
And somehow, the people with the purest intentions end up carrying the deepest wounds.
I think all these will be solved with a definition of the relationship.... Is it friendship,dating,about to get married,course mate,old friends.... Like, just define the kind of relationship you have with someone being it same gender or opposite...
I once had a course mate that we do brainstorm,attend lectures and even sometimes eat from the same pot.... I gave it a definition "friend"... Then holiday came and my messages will use days in her DM B4 she reply and I would clearly see her status everyday and sometimes, I would reply to her status and still won't get a reply early....I tried to match the energy but it wasn't easy, so when we resumed I told her about it and she mentioned that she don't miss people... That if she leaves school/home/ anywhere whatsoever... Her relationship with such people there end...in her own words "she focus on people within her space"... And to be honest,I respected that in her and drive back from her a little bit so as not to get too attached...
I'm sure people reading this might think it applies to OPP. Gender relationship... It does apply to same gender tooo.... Just like I have friends/course mates like her ... I have those that won't stay a week during holidays without texting or calling to check up....
All in all,define relationship with people... If you have any issues with the way they relate with you... Call their attention to it and study their patterns of behaviour... If you can't bear it... Withdraw for your own sanity.... Life is not hard and no matter what happens.... Life goes on with or without people you think you have a RELATIONSHIP with...
Fren🫂,
That 8th....( feeling like you have ‘no right’ to be upset because of an unlabelled agreement, even though your heart didn't get the memo)
And the 9th (Changing your entire natural behavior and breaking your own peace for someone who is content keeping you at arm's length is exhausting)
i think the hardest truth is that the silence is usually the answer we're terrified of hearing. If someone wants to match your energy, you won't have to break your own peace to force it.
I felt called out by every paragraph. The way one unanswered text can turn into an entire story in your head is so real.
This is such a beautiful writeup.
It resonates with me so much 😩💔😂💀, and that’s the sad part,really, really sad.
I actually just restricted him on Instagram because I’m trying to detach completely. I don’t think I can keep doing this anymore.
The funny thing is that he tries too, in his own way. But he’s either confused, or I keep convincing myself that he is, and that uncertainty is exhausting.
What hurts the most is that he doesn’t seem to know how to love in a way that doesn’t cause pain. Emotional pain is real, and honestly, it’s one of the hardest things to go through because the people hurting you often don’t even realize they’re doing it.
And somehow, the people with the purest intentions end up carrying the deepest wounds.
I love this a lot and the chronological order of the thoughts are real. I wish you just give us answer or somebody need to tell us holding our hands.
These are sadly true. 😥 So I learned the art of gentle detachment, caring from a distance. 🫢
Oh my god it’s like you ripped the thoughts directly out of my head 😭
Every thought kept calling me outttt😭
I've tired to stop overthinking every little thing, but it never works 😭
This was beautifully written Armannn💗
I think all these will be solved with a definition of the relationship.... Is it friendship,dating,about to get married,course mate,old friends.... Like, just define the kind of relationship you have with someone being it same gender or opposite...
I once had a course mate that we do brainstorm,attend lectures and even sometimes eat from the same pot.... I gave it a definition "friend"... Then holiday came and my messages will use days in her DM B4 she reply and I would clearly see her status everyday and sometimes, I would reply to her status and still won't get a reply early....I tried to match the energy but it wasn't easy, so when we resumed I told her about it and she mentioned that she don't miss people... That if she leaves school/home/ anywhere whatsoever... Her relationship with such people there end...in her own words "she focus on people within her space"... And to be honest,I respected that in her and drive back from her a little bit so as not to get too attached...
I'm sure people reading this might think it applies to OPP. Gender relationship... It does apply to same gender tooo.... Just like I have friends/course mates like her ... I have those that won't stay a week during holidays without texting or calling to check up....
All in all,define relationship with people... If you have any issues with the way they relate with you... Call their attention to it and study their patterns of behaviour... If you can't bear it... Withdraw for your own sanity.... Life is not hard and no matter what happens.... Life goes on with or without people you think you have a RELATIONSHIP with...
Nice write up Abdullah ✨